Are you concerned about sexual addiction in your marriage?
The Marriage Recovery Center has been overwhelmed by the number of couples seeking help due to sexual compulsion disorders, primarily the use of pornography.
This addiction is incredibly secretive due to the shameful nature. The shame leads to many lies, denial and completely destroys trust in a marriage once the spouse has been “caught.”
Answer the following questions to determine if you or your spouse has a sexual addiction:
1. Are you, or is anyone in your family, concerned about your sexual behavior?
2. Are you preoccupied by sexual thoughts?
3. Is your sexual behavior compulsive in any way?
4. Have you attempted to change any aspect of your sexual functioning?
5. Do you ever feel bad about your sexual behavior?
6. Have you ever sought help for your sexual behavior?
7. Has anyone been hurt emotionally by your sexual behavior?
8. Do you hide any of your sexual behavior from others?
9. Has the Internet created problems for you?
10. Has anyone in your life been upset about your sexual behavior?
If you answered ‘yes’ to any of these questions, you need to consult a professional who understands and is trained to deal with sexually compulsive behaviors. Change is not likely to occur without professional intervention. If you, or someone you love, answered ‘yes’ to any of these questions, do not enable them by keeping the problem a secret. Remember, ‘things don’t change; people do.’
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Essentially, the addict becomes numb to the impact of their behavior on his/her spouse, and because they are in denial, tend to make excuses and minimize their issues while increasing their level of acting out. Pornography addiction is progressive and leads to riskier behavior, such as soliciting potential partners on the internet, in spite of the harmful consequences.
If this addiction has created chaos and devastation in your marriage, it must stop immediately! You may feel helpless and hopeless that your spouse will ever be able to change and be worthy of your trust again. We believe there is hope for your marriage if you chose to do the hard work; refuse to enable this behavior and set firm boundaries.